Now if you really liked this girl, all you can do now is give it some time and then start all over again. The fact is, it doesn't even take time on her part. It takes time for you because you need to learn the right way to approach her, build attraction, and then seduce her.
You've got to get through the attraction phase completely until she gives you a clear signal that she might be able to find you an interesting guy and actually enjoys talking to you. And, yes, you will get this signal from her when the time is right. Then, you can ask her for her number, ask her whether she wants to go out sometime, or even go in for the kiss if you're getting the signal we'll get into in a bit.
Just keep in mind that you can still mess things up really fast even at this point. No guy is a complete stranger to rejection from a woman. It's just that some of us take it to heart or have it happen time and time again and don't understand what we're doing wrong. It really wears on our self-image and our self-esteem, and it seems like there just isn't any hope whatsoever. Maybe you're just shy and have no idea how to even begin to talk to a girl you find physically attractive. If you've just about given up, or your tired of being with less attractive women, read on, and you'll quickly determine that your life is about to change Yes, it takes practice.
If you're a gamer, you may be able to relate to this. You don't just become a big league top shot right when you first pick up that shiny new game and toss it into your console system, right? Well, you might catch on pretty quickly if you've played similar games like it before, but it still requires practice. Even so, doesn't a strategy guide or a cheat sheet make it a whole hell of a lot easier?
Of course it does! So, think of this book at your strategy guide or cheat sheet to picking up those dimes. Even so, it's still going to take practice. If beautiful women make you nervous and hesitate.
You need to stop yourself right there. You need to practice first. Try the techniques you're about to learn on girls that Then, you'll know exactly how to apply these skills to those girls you thought you'd only hook up with in your dreams. Make sense? Before we get into how to seduce beautiful women and hack into any woman's emotional brain to turn the tables in your favor, we need to quickly dispel one common myth.
This myth is often propagated by the media and movies but as well as by your Lothario-wannabe friends: MYTH: You have to have the looks of a men's cologne model, ripped abs, drive a Lambo, be a rockstar, or be a millionaire to even think about becoming successful with highly attractive women. Let me let you in on a little secret. Did know that when Brad Pitt first got to Hollywood, he struggled to get a date?
He was rejected time and time again. What could be the cause of this? Before you get the idea that I'm just going to ramble on about how you just need to be more confident, and you stop reading, let me put you at ease. I'm not here to waste your time with re- hashed BS and the common sense crap you already know. I'm not here to teach you how to act confident. I'm actually going to show you how to eat, sleep, breathe, and live confidence. So how am I going to teach you to become the essence of pure confidence and success when it comes to interacting with women and making it to where they just can't get you out of their heads?
It's very simple. I'm going to arm you with serious knowledge that will make attracting any woman so easy, you'll unknowingly become confident because of the simple fact that you realize this shit just plain WORKS!
It works whenever, where ever, on who ever. The idea discussed here is short and simple, but super important to your increasing success with more attractive women. So before you skip over it, think again! You need to understand the following, and really let it hit home.
It should make you more confident already just reading it: Do you think that rich men are confident and success-driven because they're rich or do you think they're rich because they're confident and success-driven? The answer is of course that it could go either way. The same applies to dating hot girls.
Do you think an older man with a beautiful young blonde is confident because he's dating her or do you think he's dating her because he's confident? The fact that confidence and success can be both a cause for greatness or a result thereof is extremely important and it is the entire foundation for the reason that there is hope yet for any man looking to date more beautiful women. Just for argument's sake, let's say you're a broke, skinny loser with a goofy haircut and a hippie bum's outfit.
You need to believe this. More importantly, you need to believe this and believe in yourself. You need to believe that you can do this. You don't need to understand how just yet, as we'll get there, but you need to be feeling enthusiastic right now and absolutely know that you are about to become a master at attracting women who you, and everyone else, thought were way out of your league.
If you just read this and are now smiling with hope, you're ready to continue to the next section. There are a lot of aspects to a conversation that are perfectly respectable when doing it at work or when hanging out with friends.
It's just that these same gestures, mannerisms, and even the content of your conversation can have adverse affects when trying to build attraction in a woman. Let's get into some examples that you're most likely subconsciously doing that turn women off before you even get a chance at talking them into being interested in you. If you walk up to a woman and face her straight on, right away, you're sending a signal to her that you are too needy. Women are biologically engrained to avoid needy and desperate men.
Why would a woman need a desperate man? Another thing a lot of men do, especially in a noisy environment, is lean in when a woman is speaking. Offering to buy a a drink for a woman who doesn't know you when you're at a bar is another way of telling her: you're not good enough for her but maybe you can buy her attention with superficial artifacts.
Getting personal too quickly with a girl you have just approached will also lead to her subconsciously devaluing you as a potential partner. Telling her things about yourself or asking personal questions about her is where most guys go wrong. They do it out of instinct when they get nervous and aren't sure how to continue a conversation.
The best case scenario from getting too personal too quickly is that you land in the friend zone, and it is always more difficult to get out of the friend zone than it is to avoid it in the first place.
Writing down exactly what you plan to say to a girl when you first call her after you finally get her number and than rehearsing it word for word is also a huge mistake. It just makes everything sound exactly what it is — rehearsed, and honestly, it's going to make you way more nervous than if you just wing it.
Right away, if you are still catching yourself psyching yourself up and getting more and more nervous before you walk up to an attractive woman, you need to stop yourself right there. If this happens, it's very simple as to what you do. Just don't do it! Let it go. Another opportunity will arise maybe not with her, but that's OK because you would've F-ed it up and felt like a loser anyways. The last thing we need is for you to continue getting rejected and what little confidence you have built up for yourself to wither away.
You'll know when you're ready because you'll literally feel it. You will feel like a complete rockstar as you're approaching her, and you will seriously knock it right out of the park. Don't worry So let's get into how: The first big mistake guys make, that we discussed in the previous section, is making themselves look too needy or desperate, and it kills any chances they have of building attraction.
Think of it like shooting the shit with your friends about random stuff going on in the world today. You'll know when the time is right. The simplest way to know is when she starts to really tell you personal details about her own life or asks you questions about yourself with intent.
If she starts to subtly discuss things that make herself look better to you, this is a clear signal she's interested in impressing you and there's a great chance she subconsciously feels a sexual attraction towards you. She is qualifying herself to you. She's now putting effort into making you like her more. Why would she do this if she didn't like you? You see how just knowing this simple fact about women makes you more confident already?
Women absolutely love a guy who always knows just what to do at the right time because they hate awkward moments! Awkwardness kills attraction, but always knowing what to do or say builds attraction. See when men try to qualify themselves to a woman they just met, it very often has a negative impact on their chances with a woman. You need to give the idea that you are confident enough that you don't need to tell her how good you are. She doesn't care that you got a 4.
She'll come to find this out later on anyways if you guys end up together. You need to be so confident that you know you can get any girl you want without even trying. Now that is what makes women attracted to you: when they think you can get any woman you want and she needs to be the one trying to get you attracted to her. Before we even get more in-depth into what conversions lead to building attraction, we need to discuss one of the most important parts of being confident and showing her that you are confident — body language.
The Power of Subconscious Persuasion Through Body Language Let's just dive right into a scenario: you're at a bar, club, park, or whatever public place and you see a girl you'd like to talk to. You do this by walking up straight and taking big, purposeful strides. However, you do not make a path directly to her as this would freak her out.
You need to walk as if you're walking to a point near her but not directly at her. Keep your chin up with a subtle yet unyielding boyish smirk on your face. Don't look directly at her. Once you get near her, walk a bit beyond where she's standing or sitting. Do not turn directly towards her. Keep one of your shoulders pointed towards her and turn your face to meet hers. If you face her straight on with your chest pointed at her, it will immediately send a subconscious signal to her that turns her off.
Once you've approached her with confidence, use a conversation starter that we'll discuss later. Just don't immediately offer to buy her a drink.
When you begin to talk to her, make sure your voice is loud, deep, and manly. You need to signal to her with your voice and posture standing straight up, chin up, eyes pointing slightly down to meet hers that you're a manly man — strong, confident, and ready to fulfill her primal sexual desires without actually saying it or acting like a cocky douchebag.
If you approach a girl on the phone with her boyfriend and start spittin' game at her Again, you're a smart guy and you already knew that. So let's get into it. She'll look at you like that insurance salesman you can't wait to get rid of. You'd listen to what he has to say with an open mind This is because you trust him or her. You've known your friend for a while.
When you first met, there was no reason for either of you not to talk to each other. Maybe you met at school or in your neighborhood. You were both bored and started shooting the shit together. You had a mutual interest to interact with each other unless your friend is just an incredible salesman :P. This works similarly with women. Before you build rapport with them and try to get something out of the interaction between the two of you, she needs to trust you first.
If you just want to approach a girl that scares the shit out of you, differentiate yourself from those other hundreds of jocks that have tried to hit on her.
Start out with something that will make her inner compassion come out. Make it seem like you are in need of some assistance with some random crap that has nothing to do with her. For example, it can be as easy as asking her for the time or even for directions to somewhere. See how she responds. If she's in a good mood and feels like helping a random stranger with a simple request that is easy for her, you've got yourself a chance to gradually escalate things. Just don't take it too far too fast.
I'm horrible with directions. Are you heading that way? Do you mind if I tag along until I see it? The understanding of a negative situation often helps us to make peace with it and experience forgiveness - which ultimately benefits everyone.
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